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Thursday, February 26, 2015

"THE HATE TRAIN"

Someone close to me recently expressed that I was too open and being open invites haters. These words shook my foundation a little because this expression came from someone whose opinion I value. I found myself questioning whether there was truth to this statement. That thought lasted about five seconds. Although I don't agree with this person's opinion, I realize he meant well because he cares about me.

So am I too open sharing my life? No. Not in my opinion. The way I see it I've got a 50/50 chance that people will read my work and relate to me, or they'll think I'm crazy and ridicule me. The truth? I don't care if people think I'm crazy. I don't care if people hate me because I've got plenty of people that love me. And guess what? Love cancels out hate in my world.

If we live our life fearful about what people will think of us, we're allowing fear to control us. We're also allowing opportunity to pass us by. No one's clipping this bluebird's wings. I say mentally wish them well and go about our business.
May the Force be with you.

Does being open make one weird? Maybe. Maybe not. I guess it depends on who you're asking. But who makes the rules anyway? I don't fall into rulebooks and what's appropriate, what's not appropriate. Blah, blah, blah. In my opinion, there's no hard, steady rule. It's what works for YOU.

Personally, I think I'm pretty openly groovy.

I enjoy being transparent about my experiences in life, my crazy thoughts, my hilarious happenings. It's a part of who I am and sharing my life experiences works for me. To me, there's a great freedom in being authentic, being vulnerable, and there's also healing in sharing painful events that have shaped me.

I'm not afraid to share my life because I'm not ashamed of my history. I'm confident in who I am and have a good opinion of myself. I worked hard to get to that place, and I'm not going to let that go just because someone doesn't like me. I'm not going to be afraid to take risks because someone might laugh at me. That's just silly and only stunting my own growth. Why would I do that?

I accept the fact that everyone in the world isn't going to like me. There's a whole lot of people in the world. Of course someone out there is going to dislike me. That's a no-brainer. In other words, even if I were a Sunday school teacher and didn't share my life, there's still going to be people that wouldn't like me. So what have I got to lose? The hate train works all by itself so why feed it coal?

Through experience I've realized people who jump on the hate train are not worth giving energy to. I hope you don't give them energy either. For all the people who have a negative opinion, there's a boatload more that are cheering us on and loving us.

Most people are lucky to have a few close friends. I have many dear friends that I could call at 3:00 a.m., and they'd be there for me. They love me and I love them. How fortunate am I? Very fortunate. How fortunate are you? Very fortunate. Look around and count your blessings. Go ahead, name them one by one and feel the warmth that fills your heart.

I'm also lucky to have an amazing mother and two siblings that support and love me. I have my animals that bring joy and peace into my life. The beauty of nature constantly leaves me in awe and fills me up with light. I have much to be thankful for. What do you have to be thankful for?

So what's there to complain about? Why would I feel insecure about myself because of a hater? Why would I stop being real and why would I stop doing what makes me happy? Why would you? I'd rather shower haters with love disguised as green light and wish them well.

Besides, since I believe we're all connected, haters are like that relative we dread dealing with but are still polite to because at the end of the day, we still care about them even if just a little bit. So surround those haters with that green light of love!

In closing, no, I don't agree that I'm too open sharing my life. I think I was given a voice to share and so that's what I intend to do. I reach for what makes me happy and my pen and paper are my friends.

Next time you're feeling down because someone is being a turd to you, close your eyes and see all the people/animals that love you and find your strength there. Know that if you believe in it and hold onto it, that love will protect you. Let love surround you in its light and give you courage to be yourself.

I hope for all of you reading this that you love yourself enough to shout your authenticity from the mountaintops knowing that at the end of the day, you're perfect just the way you are.